We all need someone we can trust and lean on. For kids, they can only rely on parents. Dont let them lose that only hope.
THE TONE OF TRUST
Every child hopes to get the trust of adults especially parents, so we have to show full trust when speaking to the one.
Example if the child wants to learn something, we use the tone of trust: “I believe that you can learn it as long as you try to learn.” This is a kind of self-confidence for the child and believe that she/he will be able to succeed.
THE TONE OF RESPECT
From the age that every child’s self-awareness starts to sprout, this self-awareness will become stronger as she/he grows. When she/he makes their own opinions and demands, dont just think that she/he is not listening to you or fighting against you.
Example if you ask the child to learn English but she/he still wants to play with a little buddy for a while, dont display angerness as it will make the child hate learning more.
Instead, use the tone of respect: “then you shall play for a little while, but after playing, you must learn English”. Such will make the child more willing to accept it.
THE TONE OF DISCUSSION
Every child has self-esteem. If you want a child to do something, you can use the tone of talking, let her/him understand that you are respectful of her/him.
Example if you want your child to clean up the toys that are lost on the ground, you can say: “baby, pack your toys with mummy?” Dont use the tone of ordering her/him as she/he will feel disgusted in heart. Even if she/he does the cleaning, she/he is not happy.
THE TONE OF APPRECIATION
Always find merit and appreciation in a child’s performance, which will make her/him more happy to perform.
Example if she/he draws a painting, perhaps it was not a very good draw, but the passion and seriousness of the child’s painting is the most valuable.
When the child brings the painting to you, it should be appreciated by tone of appreciation: “I didnt know you can draw so well!” Being appreciated and recognized, the child will feel satisfied and a happy emotional experience. She/He will love painting more.
THE TONE OF ENCOURAGEMENT
When the child has done something wrong, dont blame her/him blindly. Help her/him to summarize her/his mistakes as a lesson and encourage her/him to be successful again.
Example if a child wants to try crack an egg to cook, but spill everything onto the floor, parents should not blame nor scold the child.
Use the tone of encouragement:” its ok, let’s try it again and hold the egg closer to the bowl this time”. This allows the child to practise and build her/his confidence to try again.